Dating Advice For The Frustrated GirlfriendI know this subject of ‘text my boyfriend’ is so hard when dating a man!
You want to connect with your boyfriend and so you initiate contact and send him off a sweet/short/thoughtful/interesting/important/relevant “boyfriend text.”
Surely if he’s your boyfriend, he’ll appreciate YOUR text, since YOU are DIFFERENT from the other former girlfriends/current people in his life. Right?
Surely he’ll appreciate you saving him time by initiating contact with him. Right?
And SURELY in the world of texts to send to your boyfriend, yours are SPECIAL and he will DESIRE them to get him through his day just like the high you get from creating and sending him your well-crafted texts. Right?
Men don’t read it like that.
Men just see your text, without reading it sometimes, and think, “Wow. She’s needy of me. She can’t get through her day without putting me first. That makes her dependent on me. Too much pressure. Yuck.”
Another man might see your text and think, “Wow. She’s aggressive. I guess she wants me bad. Maybe I’ll call her up some night when I need a sexual distraction.”
A different guy would see your text and your move to initiate contact and think, “Can’t she leave me alone while I work/see my kids/exercise? Dang. Get a life.”
If you live in masculine energy as a woman, yes, you will want to initiate contact with him and that will always be a problem in romance.
Not in work. Just in romance.
Feminine energy has no desire to figure out how to initiate contact because she doesn’t even WANT to initiate contact. With or without a text.
Masculine energy wants to initiate contact, hunt, get, acquire, seduce.
That’s his job. That’s his preference.
Your job is not to figure out texts to send to your boyfriend.
If you take that away from him, he will either distance or put you in the friends with benefits category.
If you are reading this blog post in masculine energy, you will fight back over these texting rules dating stuff.
So is this texting RULES for dating?”
It’s dating/marriage advice information that is tested, proven and works every time.
You can challenge it, experiment and see if it works.
But masculine men don’t want a masculine woman. He wants you with girly energy.
How to be the woman a man wants is to live in feminine energy when you are around him.
One who is SO COMFORTABLE living in feminine energy that you can wait for him to approach you.
You can be happy and content in your life and put yourself first—UNTIL he shows up in front of you in person, by phone or by text.
THEN you can be all about him.
Please watch my video on this topic here.
I know when you are wanting a man’s attention, it’s easy to just reach out to him.
You are wondering, “Does he still like me?” and then you feel the urge to reach out and initiate and send him a text to reassure yourself that he still loves you.
And…that’s very masculine energy.
In romance you have to stay in feminine energy.
What as women are we doing when we can’t lean back enough from being a dude to let him be a man?
You’re doing a bypass of your feminine energy by being in masculine energy and judging and justifying your behavior as “okay.”
And, you’re disrespecting his masculine energies in order to control/dominate/cajole/manipulate and that doesn’t feel good in the aftermath when he runs.
It feels artificially powerful in the moment, but really it’s dominating.
Dominating doesn’t feel good to either of you.
Spiritually it’s like you are going to the Divine and saying, “Hey God energy, you aren’t moving fast enough for me and I can’t relax or trust in this process, so I’m just going to move this “boyfriend” along and get what I need when I need it. He’s stupid/shy/traumatized from his childhood (or I know better), and he just needs a push.”
You have to understand your push is a huge enough push to push him away from you.
Is that what you want?
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