4 Dating Tips For Finding & Dating Men: A New Perspective On How To Find True Love
It’s weird isn’t it?
You can live in a town with men all over the place and yet you can’t get a guy to date.
And you want to date. Well, maybe not date as much as find the ONE man you can be with forever.
How to get a guy to see if he could be the one seems to be the big obstacle right after the difficultly of trying to find a date at all.
The dating process seems hard, difficult, takes too long and sometimes make your skin crawl if the guy feels not-your-type.
And you want to give up.
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To find a date, when you’re in that dark mindspace is the equivalent of resurrecting an extinct species.
But a little flame burns inside and you try to push aside the few times you’ve been burned dating men and seemingly wasting your precious time on guys who didn’t pan out.
To make it all right on the dating front, and find true love, your focus narrows and the list comes out.
You know, THE LIST.
The list of all the things you are looking for in a guy to date in the hopes of finding true love … money … okay at least a steady job.
Hot looking. Movie star hot. You won’t compromise.
Physical specimen of body rockin’ muscle adventure.
Funny, listens, cooks, cleans up after himself, etc.
It’s as if having The List will somehow law-of-attraction make THAT man, the man you fanaticize about, fall out of the sky and into your grocery cart.
Since a man isn’t falling from the sky, the disappointment from not finding a man who can match all of your 36 bullet point necessities (okay it used to be 72 but you cut it in half) makes you think 24/7 “my relationship glass is truly half empty.”
Yep, the art of finding a guy appears to be on par with finding a contact lens in a lake.
You do get out and visit Huffington Post type “lists of places to meet men”…after all, you’re not a hermit.
You go to a few happy hours, the golf course, the library, the big box stores tool department, grocery stores, the jogger’s park, and lots of shopping with and without girlfriends.
The men you see in the wild are too busy, married, unattractive, or are face planted in their cell phones.
Finding guys, dating guys at that, heck, … HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO MEET AN AVAILABLE MAN, YOU SCREAM!
Big, big breath.
Here are my 4 BIG TIPS to give you a new perspective and find a man—and find true love.
1) “There Are Lots Of Men Everywhere.”
Make a mantra, a little melodic song to sing with that as the only lyric and start singing it to yourself.
Well, not out loud at the drug store, but at least in your head.
It’s absolutely AMAZING what happens when your brain finally gets to hear positive statements instead of negative: “there are no men because Cupid came and took them all.”
Even if it seems silly to say “There are lots of men everywhere” you have nothing to lose, right?
2) Stop with The List.
That’s right. Throw away the list of all the things the man must have, own, behave like, look like, have as a religion, house, clothing, age, height, muscles, and languages spoken.
Set yourself free.
Realize that every great thing that’s ever happened to you in life has been a complete and total surprise.
Let your man be a surprise.
3) The man who will love you dearly won’t be your type.
I’m not talking about the creepy guy who stalks you. That’s not love. That’s stalking.
I’m talking about the guy who loves you, who comes around for you, who you don’t have to wonder if he’s there or not.
That man loves you, AND, he may not fit your List.
He’s the man you don’t have to chase and hunt and remind.
4) Be warm enough for a guy to land on planet You.
There’s no sustainable life on the dark side of the Moon.
It’s beyond cold.
Make sure you are warm for Mr. Potential. And if you’re in a relationship, keep warm.
Warm could mean soft or relaxed.
You can be relaxed and be frustrated.
It means you accept yourself and all of your wonderful feelings “good” or “dark.”
Hang in there and play with these 4 dating tips for finding a guy…which means you changing your vibe so that you attract a guy for romance and can start dating him to check him out.
Who knows, he may be your true love found!
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