This Hilarious Video Will Brighten Your Day
First, before I discuss the things you don’t like on a first date in terms of romantic ideas to get your attention such as a first date gift, I want you to take a minute and watch this video here.
Besides being through the roof funny, here are some interesting take-aways…
Notice that the man (ok, boy—but representative of ALL MEN) is clueless.
Yes, he wants to please you and, he has no idea what he’s doing, or should do, so he takes a guess of “yes.”
As a woman, know that. He’s trying to please you.
The first date is where first impressions begin. It is better to know some of men’s first date ideas before meeting your dating partner.
As a feminine woman, you have to know how to accept men…especially on first dates when he may feel that he’s out on a limb of the rejection tree.
Being unaware of his first date ideas…especially his romantic first date ideas for gifts and activities, could lead to you feeling badly (or him) and there goes a second date chance.
Romantic first date ideas are very significant for women to handle in the first dates with men. They show a man that you are appreciative—if he made an effort.
No effort? That’s a different story!
He Didn’t Bring You Flowers
Now if his last date complained when he brought her flowers, he may have “learned” never to bring flowers to a first date.
If you think flower-giving is an excellent romantic date night idea for a first date, you will feel disappointed big time if he shows up without a gift.
Your mission is not to let that ruin your fun of getting to know him.
Keep a positive attitude and see if on a second date, (if you choose to have one) if he is more romantic.
He Did Bring You Flowers
I know plenty of women who cringe at getting flowers from a guy…or any gift…on the first date.
Giving flowers is one of the flattering, cute date ideas that a man can think of — even if it’s historically common.
You saw in the video how 6 year old Janet lit up over the romantic date idea of receiving flowers and chocolates in a heart shaped box.
This is how ingrained romance is for you as a woman.
But common does not matter as much as his thought of you, the driving to get the flowers, taking care of them until he sees you and yes, the courage in today’s world to be on point with such a romantic date idea.
And when he does bring flowers, you may feel agitated believe it or not from such an open display of loving attention. If you’ve spent a childhood of rejection, flowers or other romantic date ideas from a guy (candlelit dinner, serenading, etc.) can feel off-putting.
You may feel almost annoyed, or pressured…like he wants something else by the night’s end.
Many women are so in their masculine energy (workplace side) they feel more comfortable giving a gift for a man for the first date!
Remember, the man should be the one worried about a gift for first date ideas—not you.
Maybe you want to burn a CD of music he mentioned he liked during a past phone conversation, or bring him a ticket to an event he said he’d like to attend or print out research on a topic “he wished he had more time to investigate.”
If you do any of these, you may think, “Well these aren’t GIFTS they are things to let him know I’m resourceful and listen.” Code for I’m a great catch.
A guy doesn’t want you giving him any gift. None. Especially on the first date.
His job is to impress you on a first date. Masculine energy is the giver.
Feminine energy receives.
If you remain in your feminine side, you’ll be able to receive and appreciate him—which is what he wants.
Your goal is to receive his attention of gifts and be delighted that you’ve stumbled upon a guy who is pro-actively thinking about you.
Don’t let flowers (or a box of chocolates as Janet in the video said) be a turn-off or cringe worthy, because every woman I know, down the road with their man WISHES he’d bring her flowers or chocolates from time to time!
If he knows you love his gestures, plans and romantic date ideas, he will want to do them more often.
He Opens Your Car Door
While most men won’t bring a gift to a first date, 40% will romantically open your car door (or for big city dwellers, the taxi door or the restaurant door).
That 40% by the way, is observational, not based on a study.
When a man shows his romantic, caring side like opening doors for his date, this will create an impact on you—if you allow it.
This is certainly one of the good first date ideas that a man can do.
Here again, however, if you are in masculine energy, you will be turned off by his door-opening gesture and want to do it yourself—to prove your independence, your non-neediness, your equality.
Save equality for the workplace. Let him open your door. That’s the point of romance, let him do adoring things for you.
Otherwise, you have a non-romantic relationship where it’s “every MAN for himself” which is what you’d have…you being a man.
Romantic ideas are a two-way street in dating…inspire him and he’ll do more of what you like.
He Does NOT Opens Your Car Door
If you are a feminine energy woman, and you and your date walk from your front door and he goes straight to the driver seat without opening your door, yes, you might feel upset and disappointment.
You also might find yourself in a dilemma over how to handle it.
I’ve got you covered. It will take COURAGE.
What do you do?
Stand by your car door. Say nothing.
See if he realizes his error and runs over to open the door to which you smile big and thank him.
If he gets in the car and leans down and peers up at you from inside with a, “Are you getting in?” say:
“I feel a bit old fashioned and I feel excited when a man opens my door for me.” Keep standing.
Don’t open your door.
Now 99% of men will go open the door with apologies and stories of former dates who ripped their face off for opening their door.
Listen and say, “Thank you for opening my door.”
If the Universe wants you to know that he’s SO NOT THE RIGHT MAN FOR YOU, he’ll drive off and leave you standing.
Count your blessings immediately!
He Brings You A Fish To Your First Date
You might have had Janet’s reaction to the idea of a fish as a gift on a first date.
But let’s examine that.
What if it was a fish for him to make you a lovely meal on your first date?
What if it was a goldfish for your office to bring some novelty to your workplace?
What if the fish was a to-go order from a delicious restaurant and he was sweeping you off to an overlook for a surprise picnic under twinkling stars?
Yes, a fish would be acceptable. It would show his ability to think outside of the box.
It would show his ability to plan for romance which is always a good date idea.
After all, a gift is an object.
But a gift with a set of adventure and delightful activities that go along with it? Sign me up!
Those are the best date ideas.
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