He’s Moving Slow– Tips On Pleasing Your Man & How To Keep A Man Interested In You.
Somehow, trained into you, is this urgency that when you like a man, and hope he is headed towards boyfriend status, you become mildly obsessed with ways to please your man to seal the deal of a relationship.
But trying to please your man to win him is a trap. Keep reading…
Pleasing your man with activities in the hopes that he will want you sooner and “become yours” through forced connection is urgency.
And “pleasing your man” often takes on all the activities and patterns that a man does NOT find pleasing!
Ahh. That’s why I’m here. To help you navigate the murky waters of what works with a man so that you can have a big love relationship and avoid forced connection actions.
How to please a man is often quickly (and urgently) confused in your mind with doing things that will PLEASE YOU passed off as though they are pleasing to him!
Such as texting him often, or at all, to “keep him interested” so that you can benefit from connection when you want it.
Or calling him to say hi because you feel like it’s taking too long for him to reconnect with you.
Do those strategies really keep him interested in you or do they really, even a tiny bit, turn him off?
Or today’s topic: stopping by his house, apartment, or job—unannounced—to surprise him…passing it off as though he will be delighted to see you when in reality it’s to please yourself by getting a fix of him when you need it.
And maybe that fix of popping into see him *SURPRISE* is trying to keep him interested in you, but really masking you feeling scared that he’s not totally into you, or into another girl, or going to forget about you…all of those fears pop up in your monkey brain and that monkey brain urgently decides that “going masculine” and pursuing him is the best option to squelch the intense feeling of turmoil from those fears.
Let’s take a look at today’s video here:
Thinking that stopping by a guy’s place unannounced and unasked, leaves you both feeling awkward after his first polite, “Oh, wow it’s you!”
Did stopping by his place suddenly make him more interested in you?
No, you now have feeling awkward on top of feeling insecure and urgent.
How to please a man really comes to generosity of truly pleasing him, aka, subsiding any fears of urgently needing to be with him and replacing them with taking care of yourself which translates into confidence from a man’s perspective.
Your man loves confidence.
That’s what you had at the beginning before you decided you HAD to have him aka liked him.
Replacing that need to go grab him, get his attention NOW is calming down that masculine monkey brain of yours.
Yes, that masculine energy (going after him) dictated by your monkey brain, will set your love relationships up for failure every time.
Leave your masculine actions for your work career.
Pleasing your man means creating the space to ALLOW him to come towards you and pursue you.
You may think you can pursue him, but you can’t with an alpha man and expect him to love you.
He’ll tolerate it for a minute and then distance himself where he can go be an alpha male.
You’re trained to conquer at school and work—and it works.
But even at work, you have to back off pursuing a client too hard…you know they’ll feel stalked and bolt.
Yet in relationships, you may put blinders on, because fear is running you and doesn’t care about what he wants. It becomes about your fear needs.
Your monkey brain’s needs.
That’s not pleasing a man. Or inspiring him to romance.
How ironic then, that what a man finds pleasing is for you to be in your feminine self.
Your take-care-of-you-first self.
Live your life fully. Enjoy your living space, enjoy becoming physically strong, eating healthier, getting more sleep, pursuing your passions and hobbies or education with zeal.
Breathe through your monkey brain’s need for a masculine “go get him” action and choose better.
When that urgent feeling comes up to go surprise visit him to check up on him or reconnect, feel it and then go play.
Playing brings balance into your world.
That is all pleasing to a man.
A well-balanced, happy, content aka confident woman.
Your homework assignment, no matter what the temperature outside is to go to a park and swing on a swing. And if there’s no swing, I want you to go outside and skip.
Then if you remember, come back here and comment below how you felt swinging or skipping.
You can’t be fearful over him and do something child like.
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